Have You Tried Gentle Parenting?

I haven't, but from the looks of it, it makes total sense.

Back in the day, the parenting style in the Philippines was perceived to be very strict, ultra conservative, very matriarchal, and include flying slippers and hangers every once in a while.

Not everyone knew that parenting actually can work even if we deal with kids and do parenting in a very calm demeanor. It's properly called gentle parenting. It involves respect, understanding, empathy and setting healthy boundaries, without taking away individual happiness which is extremely important for kids. The style would make them very confident and independent too.

When a kid does something bad, don't attack the person, but the action. Tell them how you feel, introduce another way to do it and ask them why it would be better. Ease in on why you think why his actions are wrong. It also pays to be a good example. Not only would they inherit your good looks, but your manners. If you are kind, respectful, they'll see how you walk the talk and become an inspiration for them. You'll be a person that they'd aspire to become especially your good traits. 

You should also encourage his/her good actions. We're not here to just point out his bad side, we should always notice how good they were at school, how they help doing chores. It's the little things that make up a huge dent on their personality because that's how positive reinforcement works. Aside from that, make the habit of asking and supporting their dreams. Be it a cashier in the restaurant, a construction worker, a truck driver, a pilot or a doctor, this will make a huge difference in the long run as they develop independence and the value of education.

Although education seem to be a bit pricey these days, there's always AIA Philippines' Future Scholar. A product that can get you cash payouts, an assure you that your child's dreams of graduatiing someday would be fulfilled. This can act as savings, an investment, to help finance your child's education even after school's done. Be it 5 years or more, you can have something to count on when things don't go your way in life. You also get to choose how to build the funds til he reaches maturity (around 17yo). This can also be claimed lump sum if anything untoward happens to you.

AIA Future Scholar gives you peace of mind. This was designed with parents in mind so you continue to live happier, healthier lives. If you want to know more about it, head on to  https://www.aia.com.ph/en/our-products/education/future-scholar.html for more information about it.

The Valencianos Talk About Parenting, Preparedness and Journey with AIA Philam Life

Philam Life just held an online event about family values featuring some of our favorite people in the world, the Valencianos. Gary, Paolo, and Sam has always been in the public eye and it's nice to see them talk about their family and how times have changed.

Gary actually had a hard time being a parent, he opened up about how much he would have wanted more for his family. Paolo and Sam on the other hand had the same fears, despite being successful, they still had to be prepared amidst this pandemic. He says "It's not difficult to remember, I was very young, but on October 12, 36 years ago, at that time I was only 19 and I must say, I was in the middle of an entertainment scandal because I was unwed. I loved Angeli, and when she gave birth, I wanted to show Paolo and tell them, I have him. That's what I felt back then. I had a concert too, I told them why I was late, it was because my son was born. In a family of 7, I still didn't know what a parent was. My Mom was always the disciplinarian, she taught me how to be generous and always pray. My Dad was a quiet man, he told me and put his hand on my, he told me he was going to be by my side no matter what. It was why I had my core, it was something which made me think, I was going to be for my children. I want my family to look at them about my situation that I had to make sure I was insured as it (cancer and heart issues) comes out of nowhere, it has to be taken cared of."

 

Paolo and Sam says "We are still adjusting, still figuring out things in the industry. We are in the forefront to find new ways to put together shows, as parents, we are finding ways to be there for our kids. It's an interesting time for everyone. We were talking about online classes earlier, and you really can't really just leave kids to teachers out there. They had to keep the kids engaged, it's hard. I always tell my folks, I was the best mistake they have ever made. In our case, everything was planned, but when we got married, I had not broken in to the industry yet. I was finding ways to support my family. Some people told us you can't be prepared, just take that leap of faith, with no idea how to raise a kid, everything just came so naturally. When you're in that situation, everything you just see on viral videos before, it happens to you. We kind of figured out how to do it, she's such a blessing, I felt how my Dad felt, forget everything that comes out after you see that other human being. The way we were doing things at home, everything changed. Not sleeping was just my biggest fear, they didn't tell me you're not gonna want to sleep because you want to make sure she's okay. The most we fear is her dying young, I don't think any parent would want that to happen. You always want them to be safe and healthy. Last year was every parents worst one on us thinking how this pandemic would treat us, especially for a live events director. The crisis we went through, lockdowns and social distancing, it was a tough pill to swallow. It doesn't really help on your mental state especially when an industry collapses, among many nights, but now we are bouncing back. It's better."

Leo Tan the Chief Marketing Officer from Philam Life says "The Philippines has a 2.7 Trillion protection gap. It's how much Filipinos need versus what they have in case soemthing happened like serious illnesses, hospitalization, and this is reality. Philam Life, has paid 2.5 Billion of benefits every year but we have to educate Filipinos to be prepared financially."

Tennyson Paras, Head of Products for Philam Life says "The company made us rethink our strategy. It's not about laboratories or boardroom, use our personal experience to bring products that would benefit our clients. We need to demystify the value of life insurance, we keep it simple and relevant."

Aside from that, they also advocated Philam Life's AIA Med Assist, AIA All-in- One, AIA Critical Protect 100 and AIA Health Cover. AIA Critical Protect 100 was done to create protection for 100 critical illnesses no matter what age. AIA All-In-One is a more affordable life insurance plan so you get protected in times of death, accident, disability, critical illness and other risks. AIA Med-Assist can help if you need to pay unexpected medical expenses and the AIA Med-Assist can be added to current HMO and life insurance coverage so you don't get shocked if you encounter life's uncertainties. Their fourth one, AIA Health Cover is a peso-denominated insurance plan that includes health and critical illness protection. Their products are available, the Valencianos didn't even have to go to the Philam Life offices to get it. Their protection trinity can get you coverage for SAD aka Sickness, Accidents and untimely Death. They propose new products, solutions to tailor fit on your life stage and ability to pay. You need to adapt to change, and securing your family's future is important just like your essentials.

Buckle Up Baby Event at Mall of Asia

Republic Act 11229 is the Child Safety in Motor Vehicles act and it has been signed by the President last February 22 and Fathers, Mothers, just about anyone is in panic to make sure they are complying with the law and that means getting a really good and dependable child safety seat for their family car. This afternoon, I was invited to the Baby Company event called “Buckle Up Baby!” at SM Mall of Asia who wanted to showcase the best of their wares and educate more Filipinos about child car seats.

Tons of brands like Chicco, Aprica, MaxiCosi, Joie, Picolo and Gracon took to the stage and Ms Teresa Ponce of Baby Company says “The law is for infants and children, to lessen death and injuries. We aim to promote the use of child seats in motor vehicles. We want to educate consumers, the parents and the community. The Baby Company Buckle Up Baby will be at the Mall of Asia Atrium until Sunday and we will be here to explain child safety, for us this is a pledge to save the lives of children in the Philippines. Make sure you buckle them up before you drive!”

Cheryl Justiniano of Nursery Care Corporation says “Studies say that child car seats can save kids in sudden stops, opening of doors while moving. This is such an important change in child safety, this event also showcases the value of a child car seat. We brought experts here with us, and each car seat is accorded to the age, weight and size of babies. We are proud to also feature Hyundai who partnered with us to see how these car seats fit in real life. We will visit other malls in the country, we move forward with the thought of having travels all safe with a baby.”

Ann Espinosa of MMDA says “We are blessed to have seen an adapted law about child safety in motor vehicles. It is now mandatory for us to have a child restrain seat when transporting kids in a motor vehicle. It will diminish accidents, will be up to par with international standards, and people will learn to know how to choose the right kind of car seat for their children. Thank you Baby Company and Nursery Car Care Corporation.”

Again, the Buckle Up Baby event will be at the Mall of Asia Atrium until Sunday. Make sure you drop by and check out, learn from them if you are looking for car seats for your precious kid.

Keep them safe!